Kindfulness
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Kindfulness
“It’s a beautiful day in the neighborhood.” ~ Fred Rogers
“Breathing in, I arrive.
Breathing out, I smile.” ~ Thich Nhat Hanh
Two simple reminders. Same message:
This moment is miraculous. This day is beautiful.
And yet…Is that how it feels? Or is the windshield of your life a little splattered?
Bug juice. Grime. A film you didn’t even notice building up.
Because here’s the thing:
The beauty isn’t missing. The moment isn’t broken.
Sometimes we’re just not seeing clearly.
And what’s needed isn’t a new life, but a cleaner lens.
Kindfulness: A Simple Shift
There’s a word I love - kindfulness. Coined by Ajahn Brahm.
It’s exactly what it sounds like:
Mindfulness + Kindness = Awareness with heart.
Kindfulness is like a great bird with two strong, balanced wings.
The First Wing: Mindfulness
This is awareness. The ability to be with what is. As it is. Without immediately trying to fix, change, or escape it.
It’s noticing:
the tightness in your chest when everything feels off
the swirl of thoughts moving through like severe weather
the emotional tone humming quietly in the background
Not fixing.
Not judging.
Just… seeing.
(Reread the “Resting in the Hammock of Awareness” blog post as a refresher.)
The Second Wing: Compassion
This is where your humanity comes in.
Compassion is the capacity to meet your experience with tenderness - especially when it’s uncomfortable.
It’s the inner gesture that says: “This is hard and I’m here for me.”
Like a mother holding a hurting child, we offer ourselves comfort, not to make the pain disappear, but because the pain is here.
When One Wing Takes Over
If mindfulness is present without compassion, we can become quietly harsh.
Aware of everything and critical of it all. “If I were more mindful, I wouldn’t feel this way.”
Ouch!
On the other hand, compassion without mindfulness can drift into:
self-pity
story spirals
emotional quicksand
One wing flapping wildly, the other doing nothing. And the bird? Not going very far.
When Both Wings Move Together
Mindfulness sees clearly: “This is what’s here.”
Compassion responds wisely: “Let me meet this with care.”
Together? They change everything.
Not because life suddenly becomes perfect but because your relationship to it softens.
Opens. Deepens. And from that place something subtle but powerful begins to happen.
The windshield clears. The moment - which was never missing - comes back into view.
A Gentle Invitation
Today, notice: Which wing do you tend to rely on?
Awareness… without warmth?
Or kindness… without clarity?
And just for a moment - Invite the other in.
Because this moment - messy, imperfect, real…
is still beautiful.
is still miraculous.
Wishing you a kindfulness day. Remember, it’s beautiful and miraculous right where you are standing.
In-joy kindness,
Debbie